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I sided with Bodhi and now can't enter May'var's guild to get Edwin, where do I pick him up this time?
You can't. You need to have completed Maevar's quest first.
I returned from visiting Firkraag to obtain Windspear's deed, and decided to tell him that his child is dead and the dragon's won. He promptly left his house. Where did he go? I want that deed...
I pickpocketed him for it. Once he leaves he's gone forever.
After Jan was told about his sister, I didn't want to go with him at the time, so I told him to basically shut up, and now he left. Can I get him back? Where did he go (he's not in his house)?
Try visiting his house a few times, he may return after a period of time (however long he said he was going to go away.
Good luck!
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