Well just an update for you folks. The ebay paypal resolution process is pretty decent. Paypal is like the mediator but you communicate with the seller via the webpage that is provided by paypal. They will see what you both have typed.
I agreed with the full refund less shipping which is still better than nothing. Also everything happened very quickly. Once I agreed with the refund, paypal just refunded me in my paypal account in like 1minute and it looked like it was deducted from the sellers paypal a/c.
I also still had an option of escalating it but I am glad I didnt have to use it.
But not to worry about fairness if you think I got the wrong end of the stick. ( as I paid for shipping returning and sending it to me). I copied the dvd before returning it (as it was fake to being with anyway). That was my hidden and sweet revenge
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