Saz, I know that issue would come up, but I am talkijng about a kid that has grown a bit better, and not shaking violent to me is to sheke it "gently" aware of the effects that it can bring.
I am very against all forms of physical mistreatments. What I meant is the shake when you grab a kid around the shoulders, (and age above 7) to get him to really look into your eyes, you donīt need much to do that, and thats what I meant. The eye contact is the important thing, the grip of the shoulders are to establish a physical contact. Heck, forget the shake at all, pinning the kid in fronmt of you and get a good eye contact is enough!
Thanks for bringing that up Saz! (I donīt have any kids and I have still alot of time to learn more!
) I posted that a bit uncareful..