i dont think i waited a particularly long time after she left...but it could have been a day or so.
it seems as if shadowkeeper is the only option now...will try it out 2nite. In my view it isn't really cheating to do something like this, it is like eliminating a defect in the game or a bit where the games isn;t entirely "realistic". i.e. in real life if you came up against a locked door you could always knock