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I spent 6 years with a wonderfull person who suffered with manic depression, she spent a year in hospital on 24 hour suicide watch, unable to even go to the toilet without having someone with her. Its difficult for a partner to understand, one minute everythings ok, the next total desperation, you begin to think it's your fault.
I remember when my Father was dying I got angry with Claire talking about suicide, compairing my dads situation, and telling her how he wanted to live but never had a choice, and she did, I suppose things got on top of me, but to this day I hate myself for saying it, very, very naive. As for carrying out 'the most selfish act' they don't see it that way, maybe it's us that are the selfish ones.
Claire passed away after complications during gallbladder surgery aged 30,so I suppose she got her way in the end.. she usually did [img]smile.gif[/img] and the only comfort I got from this is I know she's not suffering anymore.
As Epona said, unless you've lived with it it's difficult to understand the desperation.
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