05-28-2003, 02:25 PM
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Originally posted by Ken Rauhl:
jeez, I DONT believe this. heh, how old do you think a young man, who is about to graduate high school, is? do YOU go around violate your son's rights, privacy? DO YOU?
so... what you SAY and what IS may be two different things as well.
if it really happened the way Steven said it did, this SF of his had no right to do things the WAY he did. ok, fine, lets re-emphasize, it is VIOLATE we are talking about here, not privacy. fair? you can do whatever you want, but behaving like THAT is NOT what a dad should do.
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My son has whatever rights I allow him. He has no illusion however that,
a. he is in charge
b. his room is inviolate and won't be searched at my discreation
c. he makes the rules
d. he can do anythign about the rules untill he leaves the house.
I don't treat him like a slave, but I do retain my parentl rights and responsibilities to know exatly what he has and what he does and who he associates with (ok he is only 12 and this isn't as big a problem as it could be.) I have the feeling that you or steve would not like living in my home [img]smile.gif[/img] but My son knows the rules and seems reletively happy and non-destructive.
On second thought, he has the right to be fed, clothed, cared for and sheltered..those are his rights and my responsibilities...but all other rights are dictated by me...or my ex.
IF Steve's dad did everything exactly as steve said and there are no...unmentioned details forgotten...I think his Step father was within his rights to do exactly what he did....not that it would be nice...just within his rights. (this is predicated on the mother agreeing, the step issue comlicates things a bit) I think destroying the CD's was wasteful and overly harsh In my opinion, but parents/legal guardians are the ultimate authority in a child/young adult's life period...untill the federal or state governments step in.
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