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I think that I would have to STRONGLY disagree with your sf's actions. As a sf myself, I would never go that far. I have grounded my step daughter from her computer, and right now her system is disabled, (we stole her surge protector, so she can't plug it in, not enough outlets!) but only because she was shirking her at home responsibilities to play on it. Once she gets herself out of trouble, we'll hook it back up. I would never do what he did. It makes step parents look bad. I want her to succeed, but not at the expense of the trust of the family unit. Her mother had made some real loser choices in the past, and I really want her to understand that I'm not one of those. An incident like that does not help build trust, but instead instills negative feelings, and the world is negative enough, everyone should be able to feel positive influence at home, no matter what. Also, I don't ground on grades, depending on the circumstance...If she just can't get a handle on it, no matter how much I try to help, then I don't think that it's her fault, but if she's not doing the work, (which is what parent teacher conferences are for) then she is grounded. I'm sorry about what happened, and do not agree with the extreme, and wonder, does he attend the parent teacher conferences, if you have them, or just complain about scores on your report card. I take off work for her conferences, so that I know what's going on before I start reacting to it.
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