Sorry I missed all the fun discussion, but let me offer one other spot... a place my wife goes to for thoughts and ideas on kids and their upbringing. It's Parent's Place (
www.parentsplace.com), and they've got a number of forums for different childraising areas.
And I gotta toss in here, TL, as I put on my flame-retardant undies, that I was also raised in a household with a heavy stick. I don't know if it worked or not, and there's a whole flamewar to be had in the topic, but with my kids, I haven't had to do that yet. And they are doing just fine (aside from the bathroom incident).
I believe spanking should only be used as a last resort, and then separate from the event to avoid knee-jerk reactions. It is not, in my nine cumulative years of being a parent, the best first answer.