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Originally posted by Yorick:
Actually I would say the winner of an argument is the one that grows the most as a result. If you remain the same after an argument, it was either a waste of time, or you had your mind shut.
The person that learns the most from an argument gets the most 'bang for their buck' as it were.
Thus, many percieved 'losers' are actually the winners who gain the most.[/QB]
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Now that's a pearl of wisdom! I have recently found that when I have an argument with my fiance, I DO learn things. About him, about me and about how we are relating to one another. I often learn how NOT to present things or how I don't like them presented to me...and you know what? He and I then TALK about the argument and we work on our relationship a little more.
Sometimes there just is no winner, btw. Sometimes people agree to disagree or work out a compromise solution. [img]smile.gif[/img]