Interesting topic...glad Timber edited out the MA-rated stuff, we do have young kids on this board. Thanks, mate. [img]graemlins/thumbsup.gif[/img]
Just some random thoughts: at the end of the day, people are people - some guys like girls, some guys like guys. Some girls like guys, some girls like girls.
Situation 1. If you're a guy and a girl is attracted to you, but you not to her, what do you do? Let her know you're not interested, right? (Let's assume you're not one of those losers who lead people on.
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Situation 2. If you're a guy and a guy is attracted to you but you not to him, what do you do? Let him know you're not interested, right?
Is there any reason to be ruder in Situation 2 than in Situation 2? I wouldn't have thought so - at the end of the day you're trying to achieve an outcome - sorry, I don't like you - that should be quite simple to communicate. Even simpler if he's DC and you're AC, because then you don't even need to make up an excuse.
As for being friends with gay people, I have lots of gay friends, one or two who have professed attraction in the past and I've told them I don't swing that way (nicely). I also have lots of female friends who have previously professed attraction and I've told them I'm not interested (nicely), and our friendship has sustained, so why should the fact that someone is gay be any different?
Just 2c from a simple person who thinks that we tend to complicate this stuff WAY too much with our own insecurities.
I'm a simple person at the end of the day...I think we complicate life too much with this sort of stuff.
Edit: one more thing - gay people are the coolest people to party with, never a dull moment.
[ 10-11-2002, 11:11 AM: Message edited by: Memnoch ]