[K T Ong]

250, I'm not sure if I've actually experienced the same sorts of things as you, but I've read a few things and they have affected me deeply, and if you wish I can share them with you.

As I see it, if there is fear at all in any relationship, it's because you want something from the relationship -- usually reciprocity or a show of appreciation. Not sure whether you can get this, you will then naturally be plagued with fear. But true love wants nothing in return. True love simply loves -- period. If there is any desire for anything, such as reciprocity etc, then it is not true love.

As a Western saying goes: If you love something, let it go. If it returns to you, it's yours. If it doesn't, it was never meant to be. And you'll just have to accept that, and accept it with courage.

I'm sorry if the above sounds harsh and difficult -- and truth be told, I myself find it difficult to live up to -- but still it's the truth. True love takes guts. To truly love, one simply has to have the courage to let go of one's desires.

Just sharing my thoughts with you. Hope you'll find something illuminating in them. [img]smile.gif[/img]

[ 08-28-2002, 06:21 AM: Message edited by: K T Ong ]