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"when you ask someone who is afraid of your love to let you get close, what you are really asking them to do is die of fright. It also helps to remember not to pursue because all you have is someone who is caught. what is the feeling of an animal with one foot stuck in your trap? angry,afraid , and desperate. what can you do? you can try every trick in the book. this is the western way to expend the effort and try to show our feelings. From the eastern perspective you can stand there at a distant with open arms or sit on the wall and be a witness to something that has nothing to do with us. when the person behind the wall looks up at you they may not be so afraid for once because no one is rushing them with an attempt to control, crowd, or change them. It takes enormous courage to allow that gap to open up. "
this is an excerpt I read on a forum, one that I like to share. and especially concerning my own experience. sometimes I wonder if I have really being in love, or was I a self eccentric youth trying to manipulate my way through. it was both and more. the light side of love and the shadow companies it, for ever. and perhaps it was best that I failed, and it was best that I had flaws.
there could be many explainations of my own obsession with pursuing a person that cannot love me back. Only when I pondered the infinity possibilities of truth of my past, do I come to recongnize that the light and darkness of love are equally fascinating and all impose me with wonder. thus I do not feel remorse for what happened but only sorrow.
To Yorick and many others
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