[J.J.]

Originally posted by 250: yeah, thats right. Hugh, your friend's thought sounds more like: I have my wife at least, so I dont mind losing others. so for those divorced, does the sense of community crumbles around them? I'd like to know how you think on this.

Being able to comment from experience, your sense of community doesn't so much crumble as fade away. Other couples tend to shy away from the divorced, being uncomfortable around them as if it were catching - and it can be - or the ex-partner who has the new partner first tends to move in more of the same social circles than the one who was not dating while married. More so if they also retain the former joint abode.

Personally, I found that while my community of comfort faded, there were also those friends who did not. The freedom to re-engage socially was incredibly liberating, and since I'm not exactly a wallflower to begin with (an uber- Libra on steroids run amuck was one friend's observation ) I was enjoying myself much more than my former, who was shacked up with her next ex. - Definitely a case of living well being the best revenge [img]graemlins/hehe.gif[/img]

two-fiffee, it almost always comes down to how you percieve yourself in your world, 'cause that is how others will also. If you are a badluck schleprock moaning around all the time crying woe is me, you will have plenty of time to yourself to feel that way. Do not worry about the water glass being half empty or full, throw that sucka into the fireplace with all your strength and a loud yell for a full glass of beer instead. [img]graemlins/cheers.gif[/img]

[ 08-28-2002, 02:55 PM: Message edited by: J.J. ]