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Originally posted by Earthdog:
Rudy I read your thread the other day and decided that I indeed could use more positive thinking in my life. Ive been trying to be positive. The only problems is I have 7 kids in the house. Im constantly having to tell one or another of them "No". Still, I shall perservere and see how things go.
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Earthdog, great to see you here!
Saying "No" to a child is NOT negative thinking. (Is that phrased correctly? [img]graemlins/1ponder.gif[/img] )
Think about what you are really saying. Your beloved child reaches toward a hot skillet that you just pulled off of the stove. You respond, "Darling, because I love you, I need to remind you that things get hot while sitting over a flame. If you touch it, you will get burned, and feel pain. I want to avoid that scenario, so
NO touching hot objects, OK? I love you." Of course, due to a lack of time in this case (no child would wait that long before completing an action.) we shorten the sentence to "No."
It's a lot about the
intent of a thought. You are trying to guide you child, trying to protect them. Especially at an early age, we need counsel, and guidelines. We need rules, and parents to enforce rules.
The same continues as adults. We may not like driving the speed limit, or stopping at the traffic lights, but we forget that they were put into place for the safety of everyone on the road.
Earthdog, in today's society, where the norm is for people to let their children run rampant, I believe, IMHO, that you loving enough to say "No" is actually
very positive. [img]graemlins/awesomework.gif[/img]