[Glorfindel]

Originally posted by the new JR Jansen: quote: Originally posted by The Hunter of Jahanna: quote: Hunter, why do you suggest violence that might end badly for him as well as mark him as a prime target for revenge? Violence breeds violence, an eye for an eye makes everyone blind. Plus, "mom jokes" are more likely to get him stabbed, punched or pushed into oncoming traffic than to make the bully stop.

Well , Neb when I was a wee nipper I was bullied a lot. I found that the only way to make it stop was to do something that realy hurt the bullie badly. Eventualy after a few kids had to be carried to the nure I was left alone. If someguy gives this guy a good smack in the head now , it might make thing easier for him later.[/QUOTE]So what you are saying is that in fighting a bully, you stooped to their level and became one yourself ? You must be really proud .[/QUOTE]Are you a teen JR? Believe me... no matter what teachers or adults try to teach you... telling people to stop will not gain you any respect from them... nor make them stop.... and telling on them to a teacher will just make things worse... because then other people will lose their respect for you.... now I cant say that that IS the way it is everywhere at schools... but at my school it is... I know... It hasnt happened to me... but I have seen it happen all to many times.... When you are in a situation like this you only really have a few choices...

You can ask them to stop... but the bully plain and simply WONT, unless they arent truly bullying you.. and they were just having a joke.. on which case all is better...

You can ignore it but they will continue.. and it hurts more because your just standing there and letting it happen to yourself, but on some few occasions this actually works... and they leave you alone...

You can have a go back at them verbally, which isnt the sort of thing that happens when your 11 years old.. well it never did 4 years ago for me [img]tongue.gif[/img] .. but when you do its pretty well alot of swearing and having a go at each other... which is usually the most painless way... but very messy and your bound to get in trouble for it... and unfortunately it doesnt always stop the bullying.

You can fight them... which is IMO ALWAYS a last resort... this is always painful if it actually gets into a fight... but more than once has bullying stopped at my skool from someone giving them a solid wake in the nose... but unfortunately this sometimes turns into a fight... then everybody gets in trouble and hurt.... but this has always stopped the bullying AFAIK.

Or you can tell a teacher... which is always IMO the worst thing to do.... It plain and simply makes the bully loathe you and they might stop from bullying you to your face... but they begin to sway other peoples opinions of you... and unfortunately by doing this you lose the respect of many of your skool mates...

Now I dont want to advise that you hit the bully or you have a go at them... even though I believe they are the most effective.... but If you do choose to tell a teacher I hope for you that because you are only 11 that your friends and peers wont go against you because of it.... and if you do tell a teacher... ask them to catch the bully out while they are doing it... ask them to make as sure as possible that it looks like you didnt say a word to them and they just saw the bullying going on.... because it would be horrible for you to lose many of your peers respect over telling on a bully .