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In an ideal world, parents would wait until they have their own personalities and experiences. They'd be actualized, dynamic individuals, who have had a chance to establish themselves in the world, and have something valuable to pass on to the next generation.
This obviously rarely happens.
However, when somoene had a child at an age that young, she has to put her own life on hold and start caring for a child immediately. She no longer has a life of her own, no longer has a chance to explore her opportunities or figure out who she even is. No 14-year old is a good person to raise a child, she still being a child herself. No matter how much aid she might get from family or lover, she's still 14, and will never have a normal life or a chance to rear a normal child.
Cynical and pessimistic? Yes. Worst-case scenario? You bet. But, unfortunately, I can't imagine it playing out any other way in 90% of these cases.
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