[Jerr Conner]

We choose who we're attracted to. What do you think having a committed relationship is all about? It's making a series of choices that lead you to continually finding one person attractive above all others.

Ok then explain this.

I spent almost ten years of my life choosing to be attracted to girls yet I wasn't attracted to them. How come I couldn't make that choice?

If attraction is a choice, prove me wrong and choose to be attracted to a guy. It's that simple

Love is a choice.

If it's that simple, choose to hate your parents.

I never chose to love my parents. I just do. I can't even not love them when I'm mad at them!

If love is such a choice, hate everything you love then. Prove me wrong.

Sexuality is developed. We are not born homosexual of hetrosexual, but make a series of choices that lead to one or the other. I was not born getting hard-ons over certain women. It developed. I allowed certain notions to reside in my head, and restricted and shut out others if they came up. You can fall out of love with someone through choice alone. You can fall in love repeatedly with "wrong people". Or you can be aware of how things work, and choose to love - which includes attraction.

Again, and let me put this in bold:

For ten year I chose to be attracted to women yet I wasn't attracted to them. To be blunt, they never once aroused me.

Explain why. I made the 'choices' to be heterosexual, yet I wasn't attracted, explain why.

If you honestly believe you have no control over these things, you are completely unaware of the power of the mind, the power of the conscious mind in particular (which controls the subconscious).

And I'll repeat it again:

For ten years I chose, with my mind, to be attracted to women yet they never aroused me. Explain why?

Have sex with members of the same sex. Lifestyle choice.

But, sex does not, I repeat, does not dictate one's lifestyle. Prove how it does.

As far as definition goes, then let's expand it to sexual attraction. I'm not sexually attracted to women, never have, and haven't met one yet that's sexually attractive to me.

If sexual attraction is a choice, then why not simply prove me wrong by choosing to be sexually attracted to a guy that isn't you?

As far as committed relationships go, these are not simply, as you put it, 'choosing to be attracted to someone'. If it was, then a lot of people would be in a committed relationship.

A committed relationship involves a major committment to stay with that one person. Commitment is the only true choice you can really make. Despite the fact that a person is in a commited relationship, it doesn't automatically equal "will only be attracted to one person".

[ 06-02-2004, 04:38 PM: Message edited by: Jerr Conner ]