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Originally posted by Yorick:
There is no need for defensivenes, or feeling slighted, insulted or demeaned. I have no understanding of what it is to approach life monogamy without those two elements underpinning such a commitment, so would be interested in understanding why such an undertaking would be made.
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Well, I'm not defensive, I'm just concerned I'm going to start posting on the topic only to suffer a Choc-Down somewhere down the line for meandering into a religious discussion.
Aetheism does not preclude morality nor love. I love my wife for all our life and into the nothingness of nonexistence. We're both still deciding as to whether or not we want munchkins, so that doesn't affect my feelings too much. On a theoretical level, cheating (being with other women) is not required for me to enjoy life -- IMHO one beautiful woman is enough (and sometimes too much
). Besides, I'm allowed to "window shop" all I like. [img]graemlins/heee.gif[/img]
On the selfish/greed level, by agreeing to be faithful, I also secure her agreement to do the same. I make the choice to give up my philandering in exchange for the same sacrifice from her. This helps my insecurities.
Seriously, though, I want her as my life partner and marriage is the social construct by which we proudly declare our decision to each other and to the rest of the world.
Note: we were married by a Justice of the Peace under Nature's blue skies and did not have a religious ceremony. Nay, the open bar I insisted on was a much more spiritual experience for me.