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Originally posted by Yorick:
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Originally posted by Cerek the Barbaric:
Theoretically, that may be possible. But why would two hetero people of the same gender want to marry? Since they are attracted to the opposite gender, there doesn't seem to be a logical reason for them to want to marry someone of the same gender...unless they are bisexual and decide they love their same-gender partner more than the opposite gender one.
If that is the case, then the law in Massachussetts would benefit them, but laws against polygamy would prevent them from marrying both partners.
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To get a green card.
Anyhow, who says only homosexuals are attracted to their own gender? Women notice and appreciate other women. Men find other men attractive. What is attractive to another hetrosexual man, is often different to what is attractive to women.
Homosexuality is acting on that attraction in a sexual sense. Manifesting the admiration, affection and connection, in a physical, sexual expression.
Men insecure about their sexuality are ones who cannot express that another man is good looking, or that they have love for them, without feeling threatened by it.
Fellas: YOU ARE NOT 'GAY' IF YOU FIND ANOTHER MAN ATTRACTIVE. This is normal whether gay or straight. [/QUOTE]
It wouldn't make any sense for a hetero male to marry another male just to get a green card. For one thing, their "marriage" will NOT be recognized nor accepted by the Federal Government. Second of all, if the hetero male is attracted to the opposite sex, he would try to marry a female so that his marriage would be endorsed by our gov't - thus making him eligible for the green card.
The ONLY situation I can see where they would deny their true feelings is if the person seeking the green card was homosexual instead of heterosexual. In that case, I can see them entering into a "marriage of convenience", even though they aren't sexually attracted to their partner.
And the bottom line is that sexual or romantic attractions are the ONLY reasons that people normally seeek to get married.
Love IS expressed in many different ways and on many different levels, but romantic love or sexual attraction are the only two forms of love that lead the people involved to enter into marriage with the other person.
Sibling love is not the same. Even though it may be stronger, you would not want to marry your sibling. The same goes for a roommate. My college roommate is one of very best friends and I treasure his friendship deeply....but I still don't want to marry him.
As one of my college professor so bluntly put it, the main purpose of Marriage is to "legalize" sex. There will always be a portion of society that will disapprove of non-marital sex. But that same portion would be one of the first to ask "When will we hear the pitter-patter of little feet" immediately after the couple get married.
As mentioned by Timber, marriage also grants certain benefits to both partners that they did not have seperately.
You keep asking "Why does love have to lead to marriage?" It doesn't. Two people can love each other deeply and live together forever without marrying - and be just as committed to each other as if they were married. But that isn't the issue being discussed here.
The fact is that some levels of love DO create a desire between the partners to make a formal commitment to each other and to have that commitment recognized by the state and federal government (as well as their friends and family). Right now, homosexuals cannot be granted that public acknowledgement of their love, nor do they recieve the aforementioned legal benefits that hetero couples do when they become married. All the gay/lesbian community is asking is for the playing field to be "leveled" so that it is equal and fair to them as well as to the hetero couples.
As I said waaaaaaay back in my opening post, I don't agree with homosexual marriages based on my religious prejudice....but other than that....I honostly cannot think of one logical reason to deny them that right.