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At least with the physical punishment, it is over and done with and the child and parent can move on. The emotional punishment takes a lot longer to impose and (IMHO) can have JUST as many detrimental side-effects (if not more) as physical punishment.
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I guess that, if you were caught speeding, you wouldn't mind if the cop just slapped you around a bit - rather than hand you a speeding ticket? Kids work out (all by themselves) what is and is not fair in life - and behave/react accordingly.
I seen the nastiest little monsters on the block - who go home every night to 'enjoy' a whipping with a belt - it makes no difference to them. In fact, it's simply considered an 'occupational hazard' that comes with getting caught: as far as they are concerned, the bad act was not what they did, it was being dumb enough to get caught.
So what's going wrong with these little angels?
I have seen a lot of good kids - some who received corporal punishment and some never had a hand laid on them. All had one thing in common: good, solid and consistent parenting from an early age; parenting that involves taking the time to explain things to their kids.
When things go wrong, then 99% its the parents who were at fault - and maybe someone should be slapping them around!