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Rubbish, the child in question gets all the attention a kid could ever need, when he wants something, he usually gets it. But still there are moments that he acts completely uncontrolable. You can ignore his whining for some time, but when he starts breaking stuff in the house, you gotta end that quickly.
It's not about getting enough attention, it's about wanting ALL attention ALL the time.
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This sounds like an ordinary temper tantrum - stick him in his room until he's willing to behave - no need to resort to violence.
But you've already given a clear indication as to what has gone.
"You can ignore his whining for some time you say - but why are you ignoring it? That has to be dealt with because if he doesn't get that sorted or if he's being ignored, he goes on to phase 2
"Whining didn't work, so I'll get their attention by smashing up the house [CRASH!] - and yes, that *does* work because here comes Papa!".
Parenting requires patience and (perhaps more importantly) consistency.
[ 08-10-2003, 04:16 PM: Message edited by: Skunk ]