[Reeka]

Oh, 250, I am sorry; I had no idea. I must commend you for trying and giving of yourself, but I think this is a situation that will require her to receive the kind of help that you cannot provide. Sexual abuse in any form is a horrific and scarring experience. It would be wonderful if just having someone love the victim unconditionally would be enough for healing to take place, but this is pretty unrealistic. Not knowing the details of the nature and longevity of her abuse it is hard to say, but usually this kind of thing necessitates years of professional help to have any chance at being able to be in a normal relationship. Even then, the scars are lifelong and do not ever go away. Rape, sexual abuse, whatever form it takes damages the soul. I hope you friend will get the help she needs if she isn't already.

I also hope that you are not thinking that you did anything wrong. This is just an incredibly big problem. Regardless of the circumstances, victims tend to blame themselves and hate themselves for what has happened to them. And they have feelings of unworthiness to have someone love them. Perhaps in time and with help, she will be ready to receive the love someone has for her.

I am sure you are hurting about this; she probably is too. It would be nice if "love conquers all," but the unfortunate truth is it doesn't.

250, you will be in my thoughts as well as she will.

*hugs*