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Originally posted by Cloudbringer:
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Rudy, all I can say is I'm definitely disagree to some extent. I mean, being independent enough to get through the rough times alone is fine, but as far as I'm concerned, a committed relationship and a significant other means sharing, compromise, love and a natural interdependence in some areas. It means that although you are assuredly still two individual people you are connected to one another in a very big way. I cannot for the life of me imagine a relationship surviving and growing if one partner (or both) holds back and says "I can only trust myself". I don't see love/trust/committment/caring as a crutch, but as a tool for making me a better person. True there will always be exeptions to the rule and those who do get overly dependent are just that. But it's true that anything can be done to excess, even pumping iron. 
Trust is hard won and grievous to lose, but it is the backbone of solid and lasting relationships. Sure, I depend on myself to get me up for work in the morning.. but then my sweetheart is a late sleeper! [img]graemlins/biglaugh.gif[/img]
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I may have written my part a bit badly. I am not saying that weights are my mentor. My mentor's have changed throughout my life. BUT, I am saying that you don't have the right to belittle The Hunter's opinion, which your comments DID. I was pointing out a personal experience to validate it.
I understand your point about relationships. I RARELY am away from Jo, we are even building our business together. We are apart less than a couple of hours most days. I love her, and respect her.
BUT, this discussion is not about relationships. It's about a MENTOR. Someone who is a teacher, a coach and a leader.
I love your example about your grandmother. As often as you've mentioned her, it's obvious she shaped and influenced your life. She is a TRUE mentor.
The Hunter's choice is as valid as those who claim Christ as their mentor. ( a survey done by a Christian businessman's association here in Dallas recently said that 65% claimed Christ or the Lord as their mentor) I used to believe that a mentor would have to be a real life person nurturing me, but have changed my idea. I would have to agree that inanimate objects, books, and historical figures can be, and for some - ARE, mentors.
Fortune magazine has said that YODA (the muppet!) is the most mentioned name in mentor list of the world's top executives.
I could name several major influences in my life, but my life-long mentor would have to be my mother, Felipa Hovey (1938-1998). (may she rest in peace)
[ 05-12-2002, 02:07 PM: Message edited by: RudeDawg ]