Azred, I hear you! LOL, my grandmother has a very strong work ethic and even now when she's a bit frail physically, she does more than she should.
Rudy, all I can say is I'm definitely disagree to some extent. I mean, being independent enough to get through the rough times alone is fine, but as far as I'm concerned, a committed relationship and a significant other means sharing, compromise, love and a natural interdependence in some areas. It means that although you are assuredly still two individual people you are connected to one another in a very big way. I cannot for the life of me imagine a relationship surviving and growing if one partner (or both) holds back and says "I can only trust myself". I don't see love/trust/committment/caring as a crutch, but as a tool for making me a better person. True there will always be exeptions to the rule and those who do get overly dependent are just that. But it's true that anything can be done to excess, even pumping iron.
Trust is hard won and grievous to lose, but it is the backbone of solid and lasting relationships. Sure, I depend on myself to get me up for work in the morning.. but then my sweetheart is a late sleeper! [img]graemlins/biglaugh.gif[/img]
Anyway, I'm off to church now, I'll check in later.
