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Sir Kenyth · 04-15-2002, 11:35 AM

Just a few idle thoughts on dating dynamics and life in general. Dating is funny. Everyone says that there are no good men/women available. You hear endless complaints about it. Including from me! There are single people everywhere. What everyone really means is that there are no people that they are ATTRACTED to that are available. Everyone wants to "date up" in one way or another. It's instinctual. Don't be ashamed of the fact. For two people to really work, there has to be a measure of physical attraction and a good friendship too. Just one or the other is not enough by itself. It's a widely held false notion that women are less choosy than men. Untrue! They are certainly more discreet about things, but have even more criteria than men when it comes to who they date. True, they are a little less critical of looks, but they are critical in other areas most men don't even think about! A wise man once told me the secret to finding a great girl. Like all good advice, it's not easy. He said to take care of yourself first, and then find the girl of your dreams. In other words, get yourself to be the best you can be. You won't win any races unless you train for it. Number one, get your career and finances to a reasonably impressive level. You don't have to be rich. Just make a decent living, and be independant and stable with a decent car and abode. Number two, get physically fit to the best of your ability. Boy is this ever a tough one! And it gets tougher the older you get! It's probably the most valuable tip though! If you look good and are healthy, you'll do better. A weight bench and a bicycle are a fairly small investment though. The dietary habits are even harder than the exercise in my opinion! In this world of fast living and fast-food it's easy to get chubby! Don't forget to know how to dance just a little bit too. You don't have to be N'sync, but don't be scared to hit the floor with someone and move a little. Number three, get mentally prepared. Practice confidence and confidence building habits. Think positively, particularly about yourself. This can build confidence all by itself! Don't be scared to compliment yourself, even in front of others. Practice wit and conversation skills. Don't shy away from conversations, get involved. It's good practice. Stay abreast of current news and events. You don't have to know the gory details, but know enough to not look completely ignorant. Strangely enough, through all this self-improvement, you're supposed to just "be yourself"! LOL! Well, the point makes a lot of sense. If you won't invest in yourself, how can you expect someone else to? The nice thing about this self-improvement is that it will benefit you even if you don't find the girl of your dreams! Just my Monday morning contemplations!

[ 04-15-2002, 11:45 AM: Message edited by: Sir Kenyth ]

04-15-2002, 11:35 AM	#1
Sir Kenyth Fzoul Chembryl Join Date: August 30, 2001 Location: somewhere Age: 55 Posts: 1,785	Just a few idle thoughts on dating dynamics and life in general. Dating is funny. Everyone says that there are no good men/women available. You hear endless complaints about it. Including from me! There are single people everywhere. What everyone really means is that there are no people that they are ATTRACTED to that are available. Everyone wants to "date up" in one way or another. It's instinctual. Don't be ashamed of the fact. For two people to really work, there has to be a measure of physical attraction and a good friendship too. Just one or the other is not enough by itself. It's a widely held false notion that women are less choosy than men. Untrue! They are certainly more discreet about things, but have even more criteria than men when it comes to who they date. True, they are a little less critical of looks, but they are critical in other areas most men don't even think about! A wise man once told me the secret to finding a great girl. Like all good advice, it's not easy. He said to take care of yourself first, and then find the girl of your dreams. In other words, get yourself to be the best you can be. You won't win any races unless you train for it. Number one, get your career and finances to a reasonably impressive level. You don't have to be rich. Just make a decent living, and be independant and stable with a decent car and abode. Number two, get physically fit to the best of your ability. Boy is this ever a tough one! And it gets tougher the older you get! It's probably the most valuable tip though! If you look good and are healthy, you'll do better. A weight bench and a bicycle are a fairly small investment though. The dietary habits are even harder than the exercise in my opinion! In this world of fast living and fast-food it's easy to get chubby! Don't forget to know how to dance just a little bit too. You don't have to be N'sync, but don't be scared to hit the floor with someone and move a little. Number three, get mentally prepared. Practice confidence and confidence building habits. Think positively, particularly about yourself. This can build confidence all by itself! Don't be scared to compliment yourself, even in front of others. Practice wit and conversation skills. Don't shy away from conversations, get involved. It's good practice. Stay abreast of current news and events. You don't have to know the gory details, but know enough to not look completely ignorant. Strangely enough, through all this self-improvement, you're supposed to just "be yourself"! LOL! Well, the point makes a lot of sense. If you won't invest in yourself, how can you expect someone else to? The nice thing about this self-improvement is that it will benefit you even if you don't find the girl of your dreams! Just my Monday morning contemplations! [ 04-15-2002, 11:45 AM: Message edited by: Sir Kenyth ] __________________ Master Barbsman and wielder of the razor wit!<br /><br />There are dark angels among us. They present themselves in shining raiment but there is, in their hearts, the blackness of the abyss.