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Sir Kenyth · 03-05-2002, 05:14 PM

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Originally posted by Thoran:

Not sure who this is targeted at but I think it's only partially accurate... I actually remember as a young man being devastated when a girlfriend (of one year) broke up with me for cheating. I was a dumb kid and simply thought I could get away with it... I made up any number of rationalizations... but in the end I learned a lesson. My first wife led a life where she was always spoiled rotten... she had never gotten past the "me" stage and thought that because she was bored it was OK. Truth is marriage is hard work and nobody can be a 100% perfect mate all the time... a person should acknowledge that relationships are a two way street, but the fact that their partner chose to cheat is certainly nothing they should accept blame for. People pass off blame for a whole range of antisocial behavior in this country these days. IMO - The person who pulled the perverbial trigger has made a decision to do something regardless of the consequences... and they shouldn't be allowed to push off that responsibility based on some flimsy justification.

Don't get me wrong. I don't justify, only mitigate. Only try to rationalize and explain. The selfish "me" attitude is all too common. Too many people are quite gutless when it comes to getting out of a relationship. Much like a swinging chimp. They won't let go of one branch until they have a good hold of the next one if you know what I mean. It's a little habit called serial monogamy. Simply can't go without a significant other for any period of time, so they start another before dropping the last. This is also called cheating from some perspectives. In truth, the relationship was over long before the final split from the adultery.

03-05-2002, 05:14 PM	#29
Sir Kenyth Fzoul Chembryl Join Date: August 30, 2001 Location: somewhere Age: 55 Posts: 1,785	quote: Originally posted by Thoran: Not sure who this is targeted at but I think it's only partially accurate... I actually remember as a young man being devastated when a girlfriend (of one year) broke up with me for cheating. I was a dumb kid and simply thought I could get away with it... I made up any number of rationalizations... but in the end I learned a lesson. My first wife led a life where she was always spoiled rotten... she had never gotten past the "me" stage and thought that because she was bored it was OK. Truth is marriage is hard work and nobody can be a 100% perfect mate all the time... a person should acknowledge that relationships are a two way street, but the fact that their partner chose to cheat is certainly nothing they should accept blame for. People pass off blame for a whole range of antisocial behavior in this country these days. IMO - The person who pulled the perverbial trigger has made a decision to do something regardless of the consequences... and they shouldn't be allowed to push off that responsibility based on some flimsy justification. Don't get me wrong. I don't justify, only mitigate. Only try to rationalize and explain. The selfish "me" attitude is all too common. Too many people are quite gutless when it comes to getting out of a relationship. Much like a swinging chimp. They won't let go of one branch until they have a good hold of the next one if you know what I mean. It's a little habit called serial monogamy. Simply can't go without a significant other for any period of time, so they start another before dropping the last. This is also called cheating from some perspectives. In truth, the relationship was over long before the final split from the adultery. __________________ Master Barbsman and wielder of the razor wit!<br /><br />There are dark angels among us. They present themselves in shining raiment but there is, in their hearts, the blackness of the abyss.