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Originally posted by Sir Kenyth:
The other reasons you're talking about on why people cheat have to do with something else entirely. The girls you were with really didn't have a huge interest level in you anyway. Someone who is truly interested and in love with you would never treat you that way unless the relationship started falling apart. Men seem real good at ignoring that fact sometimes too. Relationships are much more easily maintained than fixed.
Not sure who this is targeted at but I think it's only partially accurate... I actually remember as a young man being devastated when a girlfriend (of one year) broke up with me for cheating. I was a dumb kid and simply thought I could get away with it... I made up any number of rationalizations... but in the end I learned a lesson. My first wife led a life where she was always spoiled rotten... she had never gotten past the "me" stage and thought that because she was bored it was OK. Truth is marriage is hard work and nobody can be a 100% perfect mate all the time... a person should acknowledge that relationships are a two way street, but the fact that their partner chose to cheat is certainly nothing they should accept blame for. People pass off blame for a whole range of antisocial behavior in this country these days. IMO - The person who pulled the perverbial trigger has made a decision to do something regardless of the consequences... and they shouldn't be allowed to push off that responsibility based on some flimsy justification.