Yeah, MagiK, I'd have to agree...the diff between 49 and 40 isn't too much of an "age difference." I was thinking you were going to say she was like 19 or something.
BTW, I have two very good female friends (one 42, the other 40) who have both married men far younger than themselves (one 25, the other 19). Both couples have been happily married now for some time...well, the second couple for over a year, the first couple since 1992. Even Benjamin Disraeli, Prime Minister under Queen Victoria, married a woman many years his senior. So don't worry...lots of good precedents there.
-Sazerac