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Originally posted by Angel:
i feel like I am being preached to here... feels really awkward reading this post
So many long posts! No fun!
I think we should have more fun! chill out! [img]tongue.gif[/img] [img]tongue.gif[/img]

What do I think? I think sex before marriage is okay as long as it's nothing forced or awkward... u know... *makes face*

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*gglz* ~grabs Angel's hands and twirls her around~ don't read the long preachy posts then *chuckles* stick to our wonderful welcome threads and the like! ~gglz~ ppl are bound to have different opinions and we all know that everyone likes to try and make others see their point of view. ~dances a few steps~ as long as they don't bash us over the head with their ideas on threads that has nothing to do with beliefs or religion it's kewl ~beams~

The whole cleaving together thing is too confusing ~confuddled~ I mean what if you think you're totally in love with someone and am engaged to marry him/her, would you make love (not have "sex") with him/her before the actual ceremony?

And if you do what if b4 you get married you realise that he/she isn't the one for you and that actually what you feel isn't the right kind of love towards him/her? Would this make your intention to save yourself for your spouse any less valid because you made a very human error in judgement?

Another thing I was wondering... how do you know you're totally compatible with someone unless you make love with them before you're married? I mean what if you get married and the sexual spark just isn't there? I would not be good to get married then 10years down the line divorce.

Also, what constitutes making love? Does it count as not saving yourself if you say, kiss someone else? Maybe explore but not actually have sexual intercourse? Or is it just the act of orgasming?

And last of all "love" this most indefinable word... how do you know when it is true love? How do you know that this is the only person you will ever truly love? I can't see into the future and I don't think anyone else can. So how can you possibly know that they are your one and only true love untill you are dead? People change and if you're not careful you might wake up one day with a strangers head next to yours. So I guess all we can do is try our best to make the right judgement, but we are not perfect.

I used to believe in saving myself for my loved one. But I also believed in making love before marriage (probably a rebellion against the repressed chinese idea that if a FEMALE has sex out of wedlock or even if she's raped she is ruined for life and impure and no one will ever want her and that husbands are entitled to have virgins for wives ~gnashes teeth at thoughts about double standards~)

I still believe in saving myself and I used to reason that if I ever felt that I could make love to a person (but then again what constitues making love?), then he must be my one true love so we'd probably be married anyway. But that was all before I realised the complexities of love. The different kinds of love. The whole big confusion! ~sigh~ Just how do u tell?!

Nothing is black and white anymore... everything's varying shades of grey.