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mistral4543 · 01-15-2002, 05:18 AM

This is just to give an update to all those who have cared enough to share with me their views on this subject.

I finally met the guy last evening for dinner. The setting was actually quite pleasant... open-air courtyard area, band playing in the background, a lovely evening breeze, food that was okay but exorbitantly priced...

These are three main observations I made from the meeting, based on gut feel and interactions:

1. He was not as fake as I thought he would be. I was so lucky that despite my crush, I could see him for what he was and the insignificant gestures and words pieced together somehow to form a picture of the sort of person he is.

2. He was very much the pushy sort. Kept trying to find out about my family when I just was not inclined to reveal anything much at that point. I could tell his temper was fraying, especially when I pointedly ignored him when he got too nosey

3. Not very considerate. I'd mentioned I had a cough and he had brought along some cough syrup (obtained using his name; he's a dentist, by the way). Although it was very clear I did not wish to take it, he ordered warm water, a spoon and made me take it anyway. And I did, very unwillingly, because I did not want to create a scene then. But I am really very upset and angry with myself and him over this.

[img]graemlins/1pissed.gif[/img]

Well, I do not intend to use this as a venue for badmouthing him. In fact, I think I would have liked him if he weren't so domineering and self-opinionated. And I would be lying if I said that I am not attracted by the fact that he's probably financially well-off (he has his own car after only 1.5 years of working life, and cars are really expensive in this part of the world).

Well, the adventure is over for now and I am quite convinced he isn't the right person for me, at least at this point in time.

I am just worried for myself, because I know my own weaknesses: female vanity [img]tongue.gif[/img] , soft heart, wanting to be nice in general if it doesn't hurt me in the process. So if he should start contacting me again, I will really have to steel myself once and for all.

Erm... wish me luck. Please?!

01-15-2002, 05:18 AM	#28
mistral4543 Ma'at - Goddess of Truth & Justice Join Date: September 5, 2001 Location: House of Freelight Age: 48 Posts: 3,159	This is just to give an update to all those who have cared enough to share with me their views on this subject. I finally met the guy last evening for dinner. The setting was actually quite pleasant... open-air courtyard area, band playing in the background, a lovely evening breeze, food that was okay but exorbitantly priced... These are three main observations I made from the meeting, based on gut feel and interactions: 1. He was not as fake as I thought he would be. I was so lucky that despite my crush, I could see him for what he was and the insignificant gestures and words pieced together somehow to form a picture of the sort of person he is. 2. He was very much the pushy sort. Kept trying to find out about my family when I just was not inclined to reveal anything much at that point. I could tell his temper was fraying, especially when I pointedly ignored him when he got too nosey 3. Not very considerate. I'd mentioned I had a cough and he had brought along some cough syrup (obtained using his name; he's a dentist, by the way). Although it was very clear I did not wish to take it, he ordered warm water, a spoon and made me take it anyway. And I did, very unwillingly, because I did not want to create a scene then. But I am really very upset and angry with myself and him over this. [img]graemlins/1pissed.gif[/img] Well, I do not intend to use this as a venue for badmouthing him. In fact, I think I would have liked him if he weren't so domineering and self-opinionated. And I would be lying if I said that I am not attracted by the fact that he's probably financially well-off (he has his own car after only 1.5 years of working life, and cars are really expensive in this part of the world). Well, the adventure is over for now and I am quite convinced he isn't the right person for me, at least at this point in time. I am just worried for myself, because I know my own weaknesses: female vanity [img]tongue.gif[/img] , soft heart, wanting to be nice in general if it doesn't hurt me in the process. So if he should start contacting me again, I will really have to steel myself once and for all. Erm... wish me luck. Please?!