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mistral4543 · 01-09-2002, 02:15 AM

I've a little story below, which you're free to comment on. In fact, I'd greatly appreciate any inputs you'd care to share with me... okay, here goes...

Just before Christmas, I met a guy at a social gathering and we kind of "clicked" because of common interests such as love of writing poetry and reading fantasy books. A few days later, I received an email from him (he'd somehow managed to get hold of my address).

We started emailing each other on a daily basis for about a week, and that was when I started getting concerned because I was rather wary of the written mode (may lead to second-guessing and lack of real-time verbal contact). He finally called recently and we chatted for 2.5 hours!

It was fun talking to him, and there was plenty of teasing especially from him...despite his claims of being shy. The next evening, he called again and asked why I hadn't called him. But other than that, the same thing basically happened (ie, we had another pleasant chat). He asked if I would lunch with him the next day, but I did not agree at that point.

Anyway, during our conversations, we would share some information about ourselves, such as schooling days, past relationships, ideas of love and current pastimes. He was pretty open but always wanted me to ask him the right questions before answering them (his explanation being that he is a Type B person). I am starting to feel a little uncomfortable as I'm now suspecting that he's just trying to play around with me until his interest dies out. So for all I know, he could be cooking up all sorts of stories for his amusement.

Yet I also refuse to believe that he would go through all this trouble just to have a moment of fun. I mean, I am not physically stunning and I did feel a real bond towards him at the very first time we met and talked about reading and writing.

Okay, now that I have hopefully painted a picture of what is going on, my questions are these:

(1) Am I getting paranoid or do I have valid reasons to be alarmed? I used to think I was a good judge of character, but now I'm starting to doubt myself.

(2)Does he sound like a genuine person?

(3)Is it consistent for him to be cracking jokes while claiming to be shy? Or could it be him trying to lighten the mood?

As I said, all your comments would be more than welcome. I am looking forward to hearing them!

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01-09-2002, 02:15 AM	#1
mistral4543 Ma'at - Goddess of Truth & Justice Join Date: September 5, 2001 Location: House of Freelight Age: 48 Posts: 3,159	I've a little story below, which you're free to comment on. In fact, I'd greatly appreciate any inputs you'd care to share with me... okay, here goes... Just before Christmas, I met a guy at a social gathering and we kind of "clicked" because of common interests such as love of writing poetry and reading fantasy books. A few days later, I received an email from him (he'd somehow managed to get hold of my address). We started emailing each other on a daily basis for about a week, and that was when I started getting concerned because I was rather wary of the written mode (may lead to second-guessing and lack of real-time verbal contact). He finally called recently and we chatted for 2.5 hours! It was fun talking to him, and there was plenty of teasing especially from him...despite his claims of being shy. The next evening, he called again and asked why I hadn't called him. But other than that, the same thing basically happened (ie, we had another pleasant chat). He asked if I would lunch with him the next day, but I did not agree at that point. Anyway, during our conversations, we would share some information about ourselves, such as schooling days, past relationships, ideas of love and current pastimes. He was pretty open but always wanted me to ask him the right questions before answering them (his explanation being that he is a Type B person). I am starting to feel a little uncomfortable as I'm now suspecting that he's just trying to play around with me until his interest dies out. So for all I know, he could be cooking up all sorts of stories for his amusement. Yet I also refuse to believe that he would go through all this trouble just to have a moment of fun. I mean, I am not physically stunning and I did feel a real bond towards him at the very first time we met and talked about reading and writing. Okay, now that I have hopefully painted a picture of what is going on, my questions are these: (1) Am I getting paranoid or do I have valid reasons to be alarmed? I used to think I was a good judge of character, but now I'm starting to doubt myself. (2)Does he sound like a genuine person? (3)Is it consistent for him to be cracking jokes while claiming to be shy? Or could it be him trying to lighten the mood? As I said, all your comments would be more than welcome. I am looking forward to hearing them! [ 01-09-2002: Message edited by: mistral4543 ]