[Sir Kenyth]

250! Don't make me come over there and shake you out of it! I'm older and have been down your road and others worse. You're young and heartbreak is painful. It strikes at so many tender spots in our psyches and egos. You'll have plenty of other girls and plenty more good times before it's all over. You've been mooning over this girl for some time now. I don't care if she's Ms. Universe and sister to Einstein! She's not worth this to you! If she doesn't want you, she doesn't! It's that simple and her loss! Don't torment yourself trying to figure out details that don't matter much anyway. She may tell the truth about the break up, she may lie, she may not even really know! So don't bother with it! The first person you need to start worrying about here is yourself. When you're young, break ups are real tough because you place so much of your self worth in the other person. Guess what, when that person leaves, they take your investment with them! It's good to give a girl you love a peice of yourself. It's not good to give so much that you'll be destroyed when they leave, and leave they shall! It happens a couple times in everyones life. My feelings on this 250 is that it's over. Over means done with. The fat lady is singing and it's time to look forward to the next opera. You need to start getting over her and the best way to do that is "CLOSURE"! Finalize this relationship and your feelings. Remove all rememberances and put them in a sealed box. Store that box wrapped with tons of tape. Open only when you have a successful new relationship. Practice positive thinking techniques. Whenever you think about her and that empty feeling comes back, SNAP OUT OF IT! Clear your mind and repeat phrases like:

"I'll be OK."

"Everythings OK."

"I'm strong enough to handle my own feelings."

"I'll find love again."

"I feel great."

"I love me!"

Etc., etc., etc. until the feeling passes.


Do NOT allow yourself to fall into long painful remembrances until you are at peace with the breakup. Force yourself to get up and do things you enjoy. Take up an interesting or positive new hobby. I did weight lifting and amateur radio after my seperation and divorce. None of this is going to be easy. It's kind of like hanging on to a buoy in rough water 150 meters from shore. You know you have to get back to shore, but you also know that it's not going to be easy. You cling to the buoy because you don't want to let go of the feeling of comfort it gives you. Even though you know hanging on will get you no where! Guess what, you swam out to the buoy when it looked like fun, you have the ability to swim back too. You made it into the relationship, you can make it out too. You just have to let go of the past and try, however frightening it may be. It's up to you really. People like me can talk until were blue in the face about the importance of self confidence and positive thinking. About how our experiences give us some insight on how you can better handle your problems. If you don't take it to heart and try, it's all wasted breath. YOU have to do it. YOU have to climb up out of the self-pity pit and see your potential. YOU control your life, where it goes and how you feel. NOT everyone else! They generally have their own pits to climb out of anyway. Take care and good luck. Seriously think about this 250. I mean it! You should mourn a lost relationship, but not make it into a little devil that torments you ceaselessly!