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Originally posted by 250:
I heard a lot people say when you love someone, you dont need a reason. so what about me?
when I think about her, a picture of myself tenderly caring her is surfaced in my mind. an idea of "I love her", in sort of an acceting and **dare I say** spoiling way [img]tongue.gif[/img] I dont really think about what qualities in her, nor flaws... so what is this? love someone really has nothing to do with that individual... it is your capability that counts?
If you mean that 'falling in love' thing, when what that person does/says, how they react to you is all important, I think it's a mixture of hormones and projection.
This type of 'love' is more about the individual who is feeling the 'feelings' than the individual that the feelings are felt towards.
Loving someone is very different. It is (generally speaking) a much slower process than falling in love, and is based on the growth of fondness, liking, compatibility (sometimes!), warmth, tenderness, and a genuine knowledge and awareness of who the other person is, acquired over time, and through interactive experience. This type of love is more likely to be unconditional, or at least moving in that direction. At least, that is the way I see it..... It's also more likely to last. And of course, it is not confined to sexual relationships. It has many forms.
Anyway, that's what I think, based on my experience of both types of 'love'.