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Originally posted by Garnet FalconDance:
Are you looking for someone to date casually or for a long term? 'Cause that's two totally different ballgames!
For the same matter, what is it you look for in a woman? I know the old standard, there's the kind of girl you want to date and there's the kind you take home to meet the parents.....
I think the problem lies in categorizing. My personal feeling is that if you go out looking for someone to date, you will fail. You may "hook up" or have some flings, but you won't really date anyone. My successes with the fairer sex have only come when I met someone while pursuing my own interests. Then I date them because I enjoy spending time with them, then sometimes something more serious developed. Thus there was no short or long term plan at the outset, just an allowance for life to develop.
The categorization stuff makes it tough on the nice guys as well because IMHO women want to date one sort of guy and marry another. Thus, as I find myself in my late 20's I find it easier to attract women in general than it was in my teens or early 20's. I figure this is because the stable, kind, and giving qualities I have are more attractive to women who have decided it is "time to settle down."
Of course, that presents its own set of problems, hehe.