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Originally posted by skywalker:
Ouch! I'll try to watch your back on this one! 
Not a bad view actually! 
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I find all these 'stereotypical' lists just stupid. I am a woman, an individual, with my own way of being, as are all women. You are a man, with your own way of being, as are all men.
Buying into stereotypes often hinders us from really 'seeing' the person we are having a relationship with, of whatever type (doesn't have to be a 'lurve thing'. The person does something, and we immediately classify it as a certain behaviour 'typical' of their sex.
Classifying people as being in a certain way because they happen to be a particular sex, (or for any other reason), just gets in the way of our connecting and communicating with each other on the basis of what is actually going on. We are working on the basis of pre-defined ideas that we have about a sex, rather than coming at each moment with that person freshly and spontaneously.
I believe that coming to a relationship burdened by a load of preconceptions about the opposite sex (what they are like, tendencies, how they think.. blah) is the fastest way to screw up that relationship. Think about it.
Of course, people are free to post this stuff, but IMO it's a load of old flannel! The same goes for lists about men, by the way. I've got a very large group of male friends, all of whom I adore, and none of whom fit into any of the conventional male 'stereotypes'. (Does anyone, really....?)
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[This message has been edited by Silver Cheetah (edited 10-30-2001).]