I think that gender should in no way inhibit you from playing any char you want.. I have friends, and myself as well, who play opposite-gender chars when they RP. It's an interesting way to take a walk in another's shoes, to be sure.
Possible mild spoiler regarding Ust Natha
Dum de dum
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I really like the Solaufein mod. It can be found at
www.teambg.com, which is one of my favorite sites for everything BG.