This might be totally wacky but it might be worth a try:
Book yourself an appointment with a psychologist. Explain to him that you're looking to help a friend who is in denial. Ask you friend to come with you as moral support.
Arange for the shrink to ask questions like what is wrong? At which point you answer that you are deeply troubled and hurt because one of your friends is not feeling good and you keep going on. Don't mention that she is the friend. Let her figure it out on her own.
You never know, it might work.
Good luck
Yep, this is really a crazy idea
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If I am because I think, then, if I talk without thinking, I'm not really talking! Am I?
[This message has been edited by Ryanamur (edited 09-17-2001).]