God, I'm so sorry. It sounds like my grandfather. He is almost 80 now, and he is in the same boat. He has been smoking and drinking since he was 14 years old. He has been in near perfect health all of his life up until about 5 years ago. When it came, it came with a fury. In the last 5 years I have watched his mind and body deteriorate to the point where there is almost nothing left. He now has alzheimers and chronic strokes. He drinks all day, and when I go to visit, it's like I'm talking to a 3 year old. He forgets things that just happened, he can barely move without help... It is horrible. It is so frustrating, because you know that the person you loved and grew up with is there somewhere, but the body is keeping you from seeing him. I get down when I go to visit my grandfather, but I can only imagine what it would be like if my dad were in that situation. Seriously, my heart goes out to you. I wish I had some amazing advice that will fix the problem, but I don't think anybody has that. Just be strong and do the best you can. Hopefully things will get better.
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