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Originally posted by Tananda:
Replying the question, "Is she lying?", I'd say - No, she isn't.
I agree with Moni, and Reeka, and Yorick in everything they said here...
When I was so much in love with my ex, I honestly did not find any male being on the planet (except him, of course  ) attractive, though I never told my ex that he was "the only one".
It was like I did not aware that there were other men around, I had that one I needed and it was enough. I found many men to be wonderful friends and nice persons, but never saw them as males.
So, Larry, I believe your wife is speaking about things she feels and you're very lucky she feels it exactly this way .
Tanda.
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Tanda has said exactly what I was going to say. But wanted you to know that she is not alone in that view. I was the same for many many years.
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Originally posted by Larry_OHF:
That is another problem...now that you brought it up...
Why do women lose their drive and desire after the birth of a child?
It is so unfair to us.
My wife used to beg me for more...
now...
she tries to fall asleep before I get outta the shower. 
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How old is your baby? Two months? Three? It takes six months to a year for a woman's body to recover from the trauma of birth. Plus a new baby takes TONS of energy leaving little room for feelings of desire. Your sex life is going to be very different from "Before Babies" for some time to come. I do make one strong suggestion regarding this issue tho ... it is still possible to arouse her ardor if you are willing to go the 'extra mile'. Romance her Larry... help to draw her thoughts & emotions from baby-frenzy by doing all the considerate little things she loves... again & again. It will take time, but it will work.
Larry, you & your wife are very lucky in each other and your relationship. Please cherish that, and trust in that. Open communication is great. Not playing games is great. Keep up the good work! (and yes, relationships are WORK!
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Having abandoned my
search for truth, I am
now looking for a good
fantasy.
For R³ in thanks:
Sometimes I think I
understand everything,
then I regain consciousness.
[This message has been edited by bilqis (edited 08-23-2001).]