[Larry_OHF]

Originally posted by Akasha: I know this is old news Lar, but I gotta get in there. You are so...*RRARGH!!* You need to totally stop making comments like the "What do you think of her hair?" thing. Let Karen be Karen. You married her for her, for who she made herself and it looks to some girls including myself like you want her to change her appearance to match that of another girl of your type. (Now I, being your sister, can say this). I know how you prefer long, soft, blonde or auburn hair if you can help it. Please try not to let her think you want her to change. That will really piss her off. And besides that, maybe you should chill with the comments about other girls altogether. TRY THIS: (Put your serious face on and ) ASK KAREN HOW SHE REALLY FEELS WHEN YOU MAKE THESE JOKES WITH HER. Tell her you never meant any harm, but that you're curious if she's offended. This could also be a reason why she doesn't want to make love to you. Women pride themselves that way: TAKE SEX AWAY WHEN HE'S BAD. I could be totally completely wrong. I don't know her well as you, but I know she loves you and will for eternity. You should make her feel more special than the sparkling stars in the sky and devote a whole entire evening to romancing her. Have Katherine watch the baby, and put on some Rico Suave!!!!! Love ya...

With this comment, and others, some people have missed the point.
Let's work backwards on the replies...
When a woman has a child, the chemicals in her body, can't think of the name right now, but it is not testostorome, it is the other one...is depleted. Also, when a woman breast-feeds something happens there as well (I won't get into it) that turns the sexual sensitivity off. I have actually read the books on this stuff, because I was so worried about it when it happened. Statistics show that women just are not as turned on after pregnancy as they used to be, by nature's fault. They do not get as much out of love making as they used to. It has to do with that stupid chemical that I wish was included in every ounce of water that she drinks.
Well, some women don't go through it, and some women lie about the amount of enjoyment received to not hurt feelings, etc.
Anyway...my other comment about teasing her on the subject of other girls has already been discussed with her. I asked her if it bothered her, and sh said that it did not because she knew it was all a joke. I told her that I really do find others attractive, and she said that was ok, as long as I told her about it. I told her that I would never keep that secret from her. I point the attention to others' features because she used to ask me if I liked this or that, and so I just decided to help her save her breath!
Do you see how some of you have totally gone off on me, without realizing that my wife and I are probably the best communicating couple in the entire world! The only thing she does no like for me to do is not tell her everything.
If a hispanic calls me up, and she cannot understand the conversation, she will ask me to tell her what that was all about. I do not have anything to hide from her. I have introduced her to the friends I have that are girls. We even had a Hispanic lady stay with us for the month of Karen's pregancy!!!
Now stop thinking that I am bad, for those of you that do...and try to understand that I originally asked why Karen does not seem to want to share her dreams and personals with me, though she expects them of me?
By the way...this is not directed at anyone...I am just bothered that I forgot to include the whole scenario to you before expecting a reply. It is my fault that you have mis-judged me, because I did not tell you everything.
I rule! And Karen likes the way I do it, ust as long as I am honest, she cannot stand it when I teasingly keep something from her.



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