Wow....this really reminds me of my best friend's situation.
She has been together with her ex for about four years, and unfortunately, she was extremely, almost pathologically, jealous. She did try hard not to be a nag and her boyfriend told her a million times he did not think any other woman on the world beautiful. He said he never even looked at another woman, let alone find her attractive. Still, my friend couldn't help herself from getting paranoid and she kept asking him about it. In the end I told her he was lying because it would be impossible for a guy never to even like the sight of another woman (even when you're only attracted to your partner, don't you find other women aesthetically pleasing to look at??). We then realised her paranoia sprung for a large deal from her subconscious knowledge that he wasn't speaking the truth. Instinctively she knew he must find other women attractive and the reason for her jealousy spells was the question she subconsciously asked herself: "What does he have to hide that he has to tell me this lie?"
Not sure if that will help...it just struck me as the same thing.
I wouldn't say your wife is LYING, exactly. I can imagine that she just has feelings for you only and, because she can only feel real attraction to the man she loves, does not find other men attractive (my boyfriend is an example of this, and I don't feel like a bad girlfriend for being attracted to other men, as long as it's only that, superficial attraction that I will forget as soon as the guy leaves my sight.) I don't believe, however, that your wife truly does not find any other man good-looking.
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