Anomen is NOT the only option for females!
http://www.forgottenwars.net/kelsey/
This guy is a male NG human sorceror who will romance--and respect--a woman. He also will fight over you with Anomen, much like Viconia/Jaheira/Aerie do over a male PC. Kinda smells like vindication to me.
And the mod allows you to finally tell Anomen how you feel about him when the time comes. So if you're one of the ones who just can't stand the guy and want to tell him he isn't have the man Kelsey is, you can do so.