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07-13-2001, 09:08 PM

A good question to add would be if you were friends in RL with your cyber friends do you think the relationships would remain the same or even last?

What makes you believe you can trust your online friends not to gossip to others behind your back with people they know you don't like?

Would you believe them if they denied it?

I like and have respect for a lot of people I have met online, even some who can't stand me but I seriously doubt that if we ever hooked up in RL that things could or would be the same. I also think that people who "don't like" certain personas they know online might be pleasantly suprised by them in RL and vice versa about the ones they have taken to attaching themselves to.

I am editing this to add:
I have a few friends I have met online that I have made RL connections with, most I have kept, some just seemed to fizzle when we realized that the interests we share online are limited to the cyberworld.
I met my best friend, Rex online and we still endure a close and personal relationship that is filled with fun and laughter after two years of living under the same roof. I also have a friend (in Z's town even

) that I maintain contact with through snail mail. I know if and when we meet in real life that our relationship will remain the same as it is now if not be a closer one since we have learned to love and understand one another in a way that makes us feel like family. After years of keeping in touch online and otherwise, a bond that deep can be counted on to be one that is real.
Even better are the childhood and teenage friendships that have been renewed online since we became priveledged enough to become members of the cyberpopulation.

It is the same online as it is in the real world...sometimes you click, other times you don't, but at least in RL you have the advantage of getting to know one another on a more personal level rather than making judgements based on simple misunderstandings or personal delusions (for lack of a better term) as to what your online friends are really like.

Just my opinion.
Moni

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[This message has been edited by Moni (edited 07-14-2001).]

07-13-2001, 09:08 PM	#10
Moni Guest Posts: n/a	A good question to add would be if you were friends in RL with your cyber friends do you think the relationships would remain the same or even last? What makes you believe you can trust your online friends not to gossip to others behind your back with people they know you don't like? Would you believe them if they denied it? I like and have respect for a lot of people I have met online, even some who can't stand me but I seriously doubt that if we ever hooked up in RL that things could or would be the same. I also think that people who "don't like" certain personas they know online might be pleasantly suprised by them in RL and vice versa about the ones they have taken to attaching themselves to. I am editing this to add: I have a few friends I have met online that I have made RL connections with, most I have kept, some just seemed to fizzle when we realized that the interests we share online are limited to the cyberworld. I met my best friend, Rex online and we still endure a close and personal relationship that is filled with fun and laughter after two years of living under the same roof. I also have a friend (in Z's town even ) that I maintain contact with through snail mail. I know if and when we meet in real life that our relationship will remain the same as it is now if not be a closer one since we have learned to love and understand one another in a way that makes us feel like family. After years of keeping in touch online and otherwise, a bond that deep can be counted on to be one that is real. Even better are the childhood and teenage friendships that have been renewed online since we became priveledged enough to become members of the cyberpopulation. It is the same online as it is in the real world...sometimes you click, other times you don't, but at least in RL you have the advantage of getting to know one another on a more personal level rather than making judgements based on simple misunderstandings or personal delusions (for lack of a better term) as to what your online friends are really like. Just my opinion. Moni ------------------ [This message has been edited by Moni (edited 07-14-2001).]