Larry,
Dreams are often windows to our inner selves. The girl in your dream I have a strong feeling is a part of yourself, something within you that you fear betraying. It is something rare and precious, since you speak of her having a "rare gift" and that you share this. The girl could very well represent your "anima"; your feminine, receptive side, possible a vessel of great power within yourself that you have not tapped (virgin), but you are terrified that someone else may exploit (the rape).
I'm not sure where to go with this. I sense that you are feeling a great deal of shame about this, and I feel for you there. What I think the dream is telling you is to rely a lot more on your inner, "intuitive" side. If you've neglected your receptive, artistic, expressive side for more "macho" or material qualities, your Self may be trying to tell you that you need to pay attention to your "other half" RIGHT AWAY before something happens. Quite often, dreams like this are sent to "wake us up" to what's going on within ourselves.
Let me ask you this: If you were able, how would you rewrite the dream? How would you, ideally, make it come out?
Once you've settled on that, meditate on it before going to bed, and ask for guidance on the next thing you need to do. If you have the dream again (and I think you will, since you claim this to be one of your "greatest fears"), the outcome will likely be quite different. Somewhere in there will also be the answer you seek as to what you need to do, and if there are any changes you need to make in your life.
I wish you well, my friend. Be glad that you have recalled the dream, for that is 2/3 of solving the problem there.
Yours,
