Wow, I'm glad I wasn't on last night, 'cause I would have taken this thread an ENTIRELY different direction .. ehm...
I agree that it is the little things that turn the axis of a relationship. Calling her when you are thinking about her. Giving her flowers when neither one of you has done anything to warrent it. Just because. Having a tape of her favorite songs in your car so when she gets in, you have it ready. Finding out what those songs are... buying food for her at your place so she has something there to eat (some people need more than beer, pop, pretzels and chips). Buying contact case/solution even though you don't have contacts. Making time each week to venture into the other person's world a little. Watch a movie that she wants to see in return for her watching the game with you, or having her get involved in your RPG. Knowing what the little things are that can make your relationship work better IS the big thing.
BK