@xero279
To check how far you have progressed check your LT rating.
I have posted how to do this twice the last 2 days!!!See an earlier post!
@Tanoch Thas'ala
You don't need to be romancing Jaheira to do the harper quests.
And the Harper quests have already begun.
IF you are romancing Jaheira at LT 25 she will be kidnapped by bandits.Then after you resolve that encounter Jaheira will be summoned to the Harper Hold and the fun begins!!!!