Really, the best way to MP is to get to know some folks on a board like this and start your own regular game with them.
The following is a good, standard protocol for MP:
ToSC v.5512
ToSC patch
http://www.interplay.com/support/bgtales/patch.html
directX8
http://www.microsoft.com/directx/homeuser/downloads
directX8 patch
http://www.interplay.com/support/bgtales/patch.html
no Dark Side of the Sword Coast
no Roger Wilco
firewall disabled
To join:
1) multiplayer
2) TCP/IP connection
3) join game
4) type in host's IP address (and password if applicable)
You can play with Dark Side of the Sword Coast installed, but everyone that's playing needs to have it also. Everyone in the game needs to be set up identically.
[This message has been edited by Lemernis (edited 08-24-2001).]