From the ToB FAQ -
Q: Will my romances continue in BGII: ToB?
A: Most definitely! If you choose to import your party from BGII: SoA, then any romances you had with a party member will continue where it left off and proceed to grow. However, if you don't import your romantic partner when starting a new game, none of the romance will be carried over.
best you start chatting old anomen back up KittyGal (you like cats perchance?).
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It's bleedin dark down here, slippery too.

Man, that's a pisser.