Wah .. your ICQ doesn't have to look like that, with the sappy flowers etc. You can decorate it by adding 'skins'. Go to
http://www.wulfert.com/icq/index.html and click on ICQ SKINS .. then pick the kind of theme you would prefer. There are many downloadable designs. It's easy and fun! My ICQ has a lovely dragon on it.
I hope that will help you to tolerate ICQ more easily. No sense in tolerating "Teletubbies playtime programs" when you don't have to.