Hellfire: I cannot begin to tell you how bad I feel about your situation. I can't imagine signing on for life with someone and then up and changing my mind. That is not what committment is about. It's about compromise and working things out. Not one of us is perfect and we all make mistakes, but marriage is forever in my book. Of course I suspect my advice would mean more if I'd ever been married, but it is heartfelt and I hope it helps anyway.
I know it hurts and things seem out of control but believe me, you will feel better one day. Takes a long time, but it happens. I've had my share of being dumped and lucky for me there were no vows, kids or property issues to contend with.
Your situation is miserable, but please try not to deal with it while you feel so angry and like striking back at your wife. Take a step back and try to focus on getting through this as best you can. Your kids deserve a father no matter what your wife has done and a bitter breakup will hurt your relationship with them. I wish I could talk to you in person, it's hard to say what needs saying on a keyboard in a public forum. I don't know if it will help you feel any better, but I will add you to my prayers.
Cloudbringer
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